The Transition

I’ve been hanging out with Meetup Matt (MM) with increased frequency over the past few weeks. In the past week I saw him 4 out of 7 days. We have started to make the transition from spending time with mutual friends to hanging out alone last week. I find this transition somewhat frustrating. I’m a little concerned that MM may become a hang out guy. There are definitely signs that he is interested. For example he went to see a movie that he had already seen with me simply because I said I wanted to see it. He suggested that we go out to lunch sometime and actually followed through. MM even went as far as to call it a “lunch date” but then didn’t pay for my lunch. (I know I am a mature woman perfectly capable of paying for my own lunch but I typically use this as an indicator that a guy is interested.) However, there have been several times where he has paid for me. Also on several occasions I have noticed that he was more touchy than what is typical for a friend. (More often in situations that involve a little bit of alcohol.) MM even asked me to go to a concert with him which is over a month away. If those things aren't enough to convince you he maybe interested...in addition to hanging out with me he also talks to me daily outside of seeing me simply to see how my day is and share random antidotes of our days.

The only thing is…he hasn’t made a move. I know it hasn’t been that long but I want to know if I’m misreading the situation. Is he into me or does he just think I’m cool and fun to hang out with? Would a guy really devote all this time and effort to a girl they aren't interested in?

I kind of think both of us are afraid to officially make the transition from friends to something more. Rejection is so much harder when it is someone you actually know! So I’m trying to be patience and I’m waiting it out to see where this goes. MM better get a move on it though because my horoscope promised some excellent make out action at the end of the month!!

Spring fever

Spring is not the only thing in the air. Blame it on the start of baseball season, miniskirt sporting fluzzies or seasonal allergies, but along with this new warm weather is an even more alarming trend: noncommittal fuckwittage. Scarlet isn't the only one experiencing the disappearing act. It is mating season afterall, but it seems The Engineer is not going against nature alone.

Last week I suspected I'd hardly be seeing Hanging Out Guy now that the Red Sox are in season. Turns out I was right, though I don't know if it really has to do with the Sox. He hasn't disappeared completely, but I find that he may be fading fast.

Thus far, our relationship has been as questionable as the Riddler, so it is no surprise that I am yet again confused. We've been hanging out for a few months now, and although we have taken steps forward, we have never had a destination in mind. Not dating, yet not quite friends with benefits either. I was quite content with this situation until I recently realized that he doesn't call me anymore. We've always been give and take with making contact but lately I've been the one calling him. I realized this on Friday night when after previously discussing doing something, he instead went out with his friends and never called. A) We kind of agreed to do something and B) He used to invite me out with his friends. Then I surprised myself. I got pissed.

I don't know why it angered me, he's obviously not my boyfriend and he can obviously do anything he wants. (I'd like to blame it on stress. Today, for instance, I walked around work wearing two completly different shoes without noticing). Don't worry, I didn't call and bitch him out. I read and went to bed early (It was quite nice, actually). Low and behold, he called me the next day to play frisbee golf, confusing me further.

So as of Saturday night, when he preferred to stay home, I resolved not to call him. If I learned one thing from He's Just Not That Into You, it's if a guy wants to see you, he'll see you. He won't wait around for you to call. This weekend will be the true test (since I don't usually talk/see him during the week). Maybe he's just not that into me, maybe we're just friends, or maybe the Red Sox really are standing in the way. Regardless, spring is here, and he's up to bat.

I just might

It's true. I've been committing the cardinal sin of dating, which is not dating but hanging out. And I'm still feeling fine about it. Instead of analyzing if he's just that into me (which I'm not entirely sure of), I've been trying to figure out if I'm that into him. Here's the verdict: I just might be. I just might like him.

The other night he was down with joining me and 4 of my friends for dinner and a hockey game. Considering how intimidating that can be, he did quite well with dining with total strangers. (I believe how a guy acts around your friends is very telling). Point for him. Since hockey is the one sport I don't know very well, I could ask him questions. Although I rarely need an education in any sport, I could sense that men enjoy explaining rules. I may give this practice another try in the future. As most of my hockey knowledge comes from movies, I was psyched when he got all of my Mighty Ducks references. Two points for him. (He even understood when I thought a player was gearing up for a knuckle puck!).

Last night I went to his place to hang out with him and a couple of his friends. It was a lot of fun and I found that he's funnier than I originally thought. Point for him. The evening ended in some good old fashion making out (Oh Action, how I've missed you) and I'd definitely be willing to do that again. Another point for him. So yes, I just might be into him.

Hanging out

Well it’s official. I’m hanging out with a boy. We’ve watched a movie. We’ve gone out for drinks. We’ve talked baseball. We’ve even competed in friendly competitions of fooseball and antique videogames. What more could a girl ask for? Oh, that’s right, a date.

I know what you’re thinking. You’ve read the book, you’ve had the epiphany, you’ve all but tattooed the saying onto your left buttocks, “He’s just not that into you.” Yes, it’s true that if a man is really into you, he will date you. He will not call you up that night and invite you over for a movie that neither of you can follow. He will call you days in advance, to check your availability to go to dinner, in which he will pay. I get it, yet here I am, just hanging out. And I feel fine about it.

Is it so wrong to hang out with a guy and let it play out? Is it a dishonor to womankind to not require a night at the movies? Nay. I'm a big girl, and I know what I'm doing. I'm not looking for a relationship, I'm looking for a distraction. I'm not looking for Mr. Right, I'm looking for Mr. Right Now. I'm not looking for a commitment, I'm looking for....(would it be slutty to say, a good time?) somebody to hang out with.

And I'm not entirely sure if I'm that into him. Sure he's cute, reasonably fun, and hates the Yankees. But he lacks facial hair, is slightly timid, and doesn't always get my jokes. So until I decide if I'm just that into him, my options will be kept wide open. Although I could be easily swayed if he comes through with those Fenway tickets....a girl has needs.